Healing the hurt of rape and abuse – Day 2
The horror of rape
When she got there, he was lying in bed. She mixed the dough, made the loaves, and baked them while he watched. Then she took the bread out of the pan and put it on his plate, but he refused to eat it.
Amnon said, “Send the servants out of the house.” After they had gone, he said to Tamar, “Serve the food in my bedroom.”
Tamar picked up the bread that she had made and brought it into Amnon’s bedroom. But as she was taking it over to him, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me!”
Tamar begs him not to shame her.
“No! Please don’t force me! This sort of thing isn’t done in Israel. It’s too disgusting! Think of me. I’ll be disgraced for ever! And think of yourself. Everyone in Israel will say you’re nothing but a load of rubbish! Just ask the king, and he will let you marry me.”
But Amnon would not listen to what she said. He was stronger than she was, so he overpowered her and raped her.
After getting his way with her, Amnon turns his back on Tamar in disgust:
Then Amnon hated her even more than he had loved her before. So he told her, “Get up and get out!”
She said, “Don’t send me away! That would be worse than what you have already done.”
But Amnon would not listen. He called in his servant and said, “Throw this woman out and lock the door!”