Bible Society of South Africa

Healing the hurt of rape and abuse – Day 2

The horror of rape

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8She went there and found him in bed. She took some dough, prepared it, and made some cakes there where he could see her. Then she baked the cakes 9and emptied them out of the pan for him to eat, but he wouldn't. He said, “Send everyone away” — and they all left. 10Then he said to her, “Bring the cakes here to my bed and serve them to me yourself.” She took the cakes and went over to him. 11As she offered them to him, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me!”

2 Samuel 13:8-11GNBOpen in Bible reader

12“No,” she said. “Don't force me to do such a degrading thing! That's awful! 13How could I ever hold up my head in public again? And you — you would be completely disgraced in Israel. Please, speak to the king, and I'm sure that he will give me to you.” 14But he would not listen to her; and since he was stronger than she was, he overpowered her and raped her.

2 Samuel 13:12-14GNBOpen in Bible reader

15Then Amnon was filled with a deep hatred for her; he hated her now even more than he had loved her before. He said to her, “Get out!”

16“No,” she answered. “To send me away like this is a greater crime than what you just did!”

But Amnon would not listen to her; 17he called in his personal servant and said, “Get this woman out of my sight! Throw her out and lock the door!”

2 Samuel 13:15-17GNBOpen in Bible reader

When she got there, he was lying in bed. She mixed the dough, made the loaves, and baked them while he watched. Then she took the bread out of the pan and put it on his plate, but he refused to eat it.
Amnon said, “Send the servants out of the house.” After they had gone, he said to Tamar, “Serve the food in my bedroom.”
Tamar picked up the bread that she had made and brought it into Amnon’s bedroom. But as she was taking it over to him, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me!”

Tamar begs him not to shame her.

“No! Please don’t force me! This sort of thing isn’t done in Israel. It’s too disgusting! Think of me. I’ll be disgraced for ever! And think of yourself. Everyone in Israel will say you’re nothing but a load of rubbish! Just ask the king, and he will let you marry me.”
But Amnon would not listen to what she said. He was stronger than she was, so he overpowered her and raped her.

After getting his way with her, Amnon turns his back on Tamar in disgust:

Then Amnon hated her even more than he had loved her before. So he told her, “Get up and get out!”
She said, “Don’t send me away! That would be worse than what you have already done.”
But Amnon would not listen. He called in his servant and said, “Throw this woman out and lock the door!”

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