Bible Society of South Africa

It’s the little things … Forgive yourself – 9 March 2023

By Charlea Grey

Bible text(s)

12I will forgive their sins

and will no longer remember their wrongs.”

Hebrews 8:12GNBOpen in Bible reader

To truly forgive someone who has done you wrong, is a big challenge. It is not easy, even if we know that the Bible requires it of us.

Sometimes, I think it is even harder to forgive yourself when you’ve made a mistake. We all do things we are not proud of and every now and then, out of the blue, it haunts you. For a day or two, you feel horrible about those mistakes – your poor judgement, unsolicited comments, your biases, the gossiping or the lie that you told.

I sometimes freak out about things I wish I hadn’t done. Then, I’m disgusted with myself all over again and I feel ashamed of my behaviour. I know I should have known better.

It’s ironic because, in most cases, I have already spoken to God and the other person about it. I have already apologised and asked for forgiveness. But, sometimes, that little voice in your head has no mercy.

When I read what God says in Hebrews about forgiveness, I realise that we must also remember to forgive ourselves. If he can forgive and forget our sin, and never think about it again, why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we punish ourselves over and over again?

Yes, I believe it is important to learn from our mistakes and we should always make amends with the people we sin against. We must confess our sin and also ask God for forgiveness. These are important principles. And yes, we should strive to be better. I think we also have to remember to forgive ourselves – we don’t have to punish ourselves forever. To be free and to have peace in your heart, also means to have a little mercy with yourself.

If God no longer thinks about your sins, you don’t have to either. Sometimes, a change of mindset can make a big difference in your life.

Prayer: Lord, thank you for forgiving my sins and not thinking about them again. Help me to also forgive myself and find peace in my heart. Amen

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